It can be devastating for a woman to arrive at a place where intercourse is just too painful. Some of our patients experience burning, stinging, or cramping immediately after intercourse has started whereas others develop painful cramping afterward. Pain can last a few minutes or even a few hours. These physical effects are very hard to deal with, but so are the emotional ones. Being intimate with someone you love is a wonderful experience, but our patients are oftentimes faced with the decision of engaging in intercourse and physically suffering or avoiding it all together and not being able to connect to their partner in that way.
Painful intercourse affects more than just our patients, it also affects their partners and husbands as well. If you are suffering from painful intercourse, it is important to communicate your thoughts, feelings, and needs with your partner and involve them in your treatment. It can be difficult for some people to understand why sex is so painful for you or understand that your abstaining from intercourse is about physical symptoms— not a lack of love or desire.
You and your partner need to talk about what types of physical intimacy are difficult for you and each be willing to engage in other types of intimacy that are satisfying for both. If lack of intercourse seems to be straining the relationship, a counselor may be helpful. The role of the counselor would be to improve conversation between you and your partner so each person feels supported by the other.
If painful intercourse is affecting you, please give our office a call.